Being an introvert.

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“After an hour or two of being socially on, we introverts need to turn off and recharge… this isn’t antisocial. It isn’t a sign of depression.” -Jonathan Rauch

Hey everyone! So this post is a little bit random and totally off topic to what I usually do, but its something that has been on my mind. I wanted to speak out to my fellow introverts out there. But also to those who are the complete opposite.

Okay, so what even is an introvert? According to Dictionary.com, an introvert isapersoncharacterizedbyconcernprimarilywithhisorherownthoughtsandfeelings”

Being one personally, I get comments a lot from family and friends such as “Briana is always in her room” or “Briana never likes to do anything”. And I would be lying if I said it doesn’t bother me sometimes. Why? Because it makes me…

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How to surf through an unending sea of depression

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Given my experience as a depressed introvert for almost every moment of my life.I have learned to surf in these very difficult times almost alone. Fortunately or unfortunately i didn’t have anyone around me who understood my pain or anguish.It was a difficult time . To remember   those times itself is a pain staking experience.Given that i have learned a lot from my own mistakes. I learned these things at a heavy price. I would like to share some important points that i think will help someone who is also going through the same.(Note – i don’t know you,but neither you know yourself at this point of time if you are depressed )

Over a long period of time I believed in these ideas about living a life. I always felt at different point of time that these are all true and experienced it as facts .

1.My problem…

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Livin La Vida Lonely

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“But you always look so happy,” I hear from across my vanilla latte at Starbucks. It’s a phrase I’ve heard a million times from a million different people; today, it’s coming from a friend at church.

“Just because I look happy doesn’t mean I am. And sometimes I am happy, but a lot of times, I’m lonely,” I reply; feeling vulnerable and a bit on the defensive.

Ah, the internal struggle of the introvert; needing time alone to recharge my batteries, but feeling terribly lonely at the same time.

This situation begs the question; “Can a person be happy and lonely at the same time?”

I consider myself a generally happy person. Not much in life gets me down. I am blessed to have a lot of good things in my life and I practice gratitude daily as a way to remind myself of all that I have.

But every…

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My Life as an Introvert

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I took a huge step outside my comfort zone and joined the ESL ministry at my church.  Even though I’ve never seen myself as a teacher, I felt compelled to do it.  So I did, and I love it.  I have been teaching since January of this year with a break for the summer.  I start back with a new class after Labor Day.  I didn’t feel like my introversion would hinder my teaching abilities as I am accustomed and quite comfortable speaking in front of a group, but not comfortable speaking in a group.  My students are wonderful and it is great learning about all of the different cultures.

This past weekend, my introversion was on full display and I am sure that it was very confusing to the group I was with.  I, along with the other ESL teachers in the ministry, got together for a workshop…

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The Friends I Don’t Have

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“I don’t like people.”

I find myself saying this at least twice a day; sometimes a dozen depending on daily events. On most levels, it’s very much true. I don’t do well in social settings. I feel uncomfortable, awkward, and like I just don’t belong. I’ve been a loner for as long as I can remember. I’m not an innocent; I’ve been the cause of friendship ends, not necessarily on purpose, but it has happened.

The word “friend” is used so casually anymore. The definition of a friend is apersonattachedtoanotherbyfeelingsofaffectionorpersonal regard or apersonwhogivesassistance;patron;supporter. Take a moment to think about that. Truly let that definition sink in. How many “friends” do you honestly have? How many would give you a broken heart if they walked out of your life? How many could you call to cry…

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The Outgoing Introvert…

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I’m sure if you are a regular user of social media you will have come across this blog in the last week or so.  It’s not often that something really connects with me on Facebook but this struck a chord…

https://musingsofaclergychild.wordpress.com/2015/03/18/the-battery-life-of-an-introvert/

I could not have read it at a better time.  Despite being loud, bubbly and the one behind the practical jokes; I am an introvert.  That’s not to say that I am fake but projecting confidence is a strategy that has done me well in life.  It has landed me dream jobs, allowed me to perform in front of large crowds and generally served me well in awkward social situations.  I once read that Christina Aguilera uses her trademark red lipstick as a mask. I use thick black eyeliner (we are not talking to the extremes of Amy Winehouse here!)

But I am fully me.  I am just the…

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